Forgiveness is incredible! One who has forgiven
would have experienced that it is absolutely
freeing and exhilarating!
If we are the one being forgiven,
we know how it feels! But forgiving others,
however, does not always feel so good!
Honestly, it is very hard to forgive someone
who has wronged us, troubled us, hurt us.
But then until we forgive
we are actually hurting ourselves.
If we develop the attitude or mentality that
“ I will forgive you come what may
regardless of what you do to me”
the amount of satisfaction and
mental peace we gain is incalculable!
Those who have been very badly hurt
will respond with an attitude of
“I will die first before I forgive you!”.
Some usually do! How sad. Isn’t it?
There are many people with such kind of
bitter feelings who intentionally
take their hurts to the grave! Alas!
They often die pre-maturely from
the effects of holding resentment,
anger and unforgiveness deep inside.
We mostly remember hurtful events
like it was just yesterday, even though
it would have happened say 2, 5 or 10 years ago.
Once the bitterness is troubling us
inside we fail to realize that
it is not only troubling us mentally, physically
and emotionally but all the
people around us, through years!
Our emotions, creativity, joy, love, peace,
freedom etc. are minimized
because of not developing
this beautiful quality of forgiveness!
We must realize that by forgiving
all these qualities can surely be maximized!
When we grow up, in our own families
and other situations we do come across
typical situations when we observe
and face reality of both these
situations i.e. people who forgive
and are happy and people who
accumulate bitterness and
are unhappy throughout.
I have seen men throwing things
at their wives, wives throwing bitterness around!
I have observed how some men and women t
olerate and just forget the incidents
with a “let go” attitude.
We can definitely learn from such experiences.
It only needs a little more thinking and reasoning!
That is all! Every day in our home,
work or outside we come across such situations.
Why not we analyse and think
and act more maturely? After all our lives
are precious and similarly
we need people around us
who are filled with positive energy!
The price of forgiveness is always less
than the price of unforgiveness!
Forgiveness is a choice first and then an action!
Forgiveness sets one free and
by not forgiving we are increasing bondage!
It is for our benefit!
If we remember these and
all the benefits that comes
with the act of forgiving
we will definitely choose to forgive.
Let's start at the very beginning...
Keep smiling….keep forgiving!
It's Your friend
Chitra.