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Nov 20, '08



Child abuse is a worldwide crime and going on to this day and age. Every one knows what are the rights of children but in reality, do they have those rights to practice. India recently celebrated "Children's Day" all over the country. Leaders,politicians,bureacrats, industrialists and other celebrities visited the orphanage, jails and slums to distributes candies, toys and clothings.They also delivered profound speeches on the duties and responsibilities of tomorrow's citizen. and after that returned to their cocoons of luxury leaving the children to rot. Can we honestly say that they have even their basic rights. 

Recent case of ex beauty queen priyanka of Meerut who murdered her parents makes me think that if it is  the consequences of stripping the basic rights and years of abuse.Although,murder in any difinition is never justified,but we all know that children suffering the constant abuse in their childhood develop a rage of maladaptive , anti social , self destructive behaviors. They experience same kind of thoughts when they suffer abuse.As a result they develop agressive behavior , anxiety,attention deficit problems in their adult life. Some go to the extreme as to commit murder. 

The story of Priyanka ex beauty queen of 2005 goes like this.. She with the help of her friend also a victim of child abuse killed Priyanka's parents in cold blood. According to Priyanka she was always looked down by her family . Her father and brother always accused her of being an illegitimate child of the mother. They often beat her up . They didn't support her dream of persuing a career in fashion design even after she completed the course in the subject. They didn't think a girl should have a higher education or a career. According to Pryanka there were times when she was ill but was forced to carry out the daily kitchen chores. and thrashed black and blue for even a small mistake. 

Through with her schooling from JP academy in Meerut she graduated from Indian Institute of fashion Technology in 2002 and tried her luck in the fashion world and won the Miss Meerut contest. It was around that time she came across a young man who worked as a senior executive in a multi national giant of electronic goods.They became close, But he used her and suddenly disappeared from her life. Ditched by her boy friend and rediculed by her family she shifted to Govt girl's polytechnic in south Delhi in 2006 where she met Anju her friend and partner in crime. She too was a victim of child abuse . Her uncle raped her when she was very young and when she repoted to her parents they dismissed it by saying that it was all her fault. She was an unwanted child to them. Both girls developed a strong bond between them. 

About the murder, Priyanka told the police she along with her friend had gone to meet her mother on November 10.Mother wasn't pleased to see her instead started to curse her in a fit and rage and then she tried to grab her hair and in a reflex she caught her mother by neck and she started bleeding from her nose . she turned numb Priyanka was panicky and got an ointment thinking it will stop the bleeding . While the two girls were yet to decide what to do next priyanka's father arrived at the scene and saw his wife bleeding . He tried to raise an alarm. The girls reportedly tried to gag him and he died in the process. 

She told the police about the stolen jewelry , cash and certificates , quote. "I was peeved over my father's decision to give away every thing to my brother who is persuing his career in Banglore and my elder sister who is married. So I searched for my father's will and in the process came across the cash and jewelry etc". The both girls are arrested and in the police custody. 

When tragic death like this happens then we wonder why did it happen? How could she kill her own father and mother in a cold blood. But when we go into the deep root of the cause of this horrible crime we see that years of abuse has left her scarred deep down .Phycologically untreated she never came to a closure and developed a deep hatred towards her parents which led to a terrible crime of murder.








Nov 06, '08





In my opinion,women are the misunderstood gender of the two. No matter how hard she tries, she is always critized for a slightest mistake.There is always a double standard for women.What is good for a man is never good enough for a woman. Not a single country in the world has given them their rightful rights.Some have  taken their identity,some have taken away their independence,while some have shortchanged them of equal salaray making only 70 cent for a dollar a man makes. 

The world says,it is difficult t understand a woman because she is full of contradictions,the world says a woman is full of vanity, jealousy,greed and ego. They say her mind is full of insatiable desires for wealth,luxury and lavish lifestyles.They say she has a charm to make you swoon,she has skills and tricks to make or break homes and even nations.HOW WRONG THEY ARE AND HOW NAIVE THEY ARE. 

They dont see how women are the reservoir of love,overflowing with compassion,caring and giving as mothers,sisters, wives and friends. How can they not see that with heart full of sweetness a voice soothing and delicate a women make all your troubles melt She is known for giving till it hurts,that's what women do only to be hurt and accused of ulterior motives and wrong intentions.The tender and kind feelings that only women can give usually go unrecognized.I wish the world were kinder to the kindest soul of creation.

But women could have their own RX for Respect and recognition if they want. They don't need anyone to validate them. A woman is beautiful inside and out filled with joy and pride as graceful as a butterfly as woman should be seen,not heard. Women should be with strength to knock down any boundaries keeping them from journeys of life. Wemen are majical, mystical and spiritual creatures,whose true value is not recognized by our society or sometimes by themselves.They  are our own person,therefore manifest their  own destiny. Journey to their SELF is not easy one. It is most difficult task anyone ever faces in life. 

Respect a woman and she will treasure you 
Scorn a woman and you will find that HELL HATH NO FURY LIKE WOMAN'S SCRON    









Oct 31, '08



Beleive it or not,relationships are central to our existence,yet no close relationship is simple or can be taken for granted. Building a healthy relationship needs work, patience, tolerance and compasion. Relationships are one of the most difficult areas of human life. The closer the ties, the harder are the challanges . A great deal of our happiness and sorrows arises from these relationship. People nearest to us such as spouse, parents, children , close friends are usually the source of our deepest anxieties,fears, insecurities and unhappiness or pain as indeed they are of joy,love support,comfort guidance and ever liberaton

If relationships are so central to our existence as human being, if they can infact make or break us,then what is the secret of getting them right. If only we knew this, we might not only prevent sorrows from happening but actually create a good deal of happiness and finally find a way of being at peace with ourselves and with others. There is ofcourse no simple answer to this complicated question 

Relationship is like labyrinths,each choice  leads to many others. Every mistake is magnified,every error multiplied until in the end we find ourselves completely lost. We wonder, where did we go wrong? What could we have done better , why did we waste all those years and how can we rectify the mistake 

To approach this complex problem we must start with basics . First of all we have to understand that no intimate relationship is simple or can be taken for granted It needs a lot of work,patience , tolerance and compassion.Loving the other person makes them feel safe and removes the insecurities and suspicions. They stop being angry or retaliatory,but how can we love so devotedly and one sided when we ourselves are needy and depleted and look to the others to quench our thirst for love. Ofcourse this is the key issue in every relationship what we seek from the others is what lack ourselves. partial, incomplete and inadequete We seek completion,adequecy through others and usually end up being disappointed.That is because others expect the same from us. In a clash of expectation,many a relationships fail 

There are some relationships that seem to be impossible if not exceptionally difficult. Someone we are closely connected with becomes hard to deal with in such cases We need to remember that this person is part of our life,perhaps because there is an unpaid,"karmic debt" that we owe him/her and therefore we should discharge this debt with joyous detachment if possible rather than a sorrowfull resistance 

We can view whatever happens to us by being either purely accidental or that there is a method in it .Infact every thing does or eventually make sense. If we behave later,we we know that we have chosen every test and trial that we face. 

If so, it is our duty to do the best in every situation by offering a quiet supportive love to the other,irrespective of what we get in return.Ofcourse sometimes it is also necessary towithdraw entirely from a person and to break free from a relationship that we know is damaging to us in the long run. On the other hand, if we can affirm,renew and release what is positive in that relationship,it is never too late to mend it, and thereby free ourselves from repeating it's trauma.and both will be happy in the long run.









Oct 17, '08



The reason for this choice is not selfish
but based within my caring for us both 

If I love you first
I put a greater value upon you than me 
It will be therefore hard for me to feel 
that I am more than second best 

If I love you first 
And then you change 
Then my love may not be able to keep up 

If I love you first 
I might except the same from you 
And I might get disappointed 

If I love you first 
Then our love for both of us 
will grow at your pace 
And I am not in control of you,Just of me 

If I love you first 
And you leave 
Then I am left with the second rate love 
BUT 

If I love me first 
Our love for both of us 
Will grow at my pace 
I will not subvert my needs to yours
And therefore, a happier person 
For you to be with 

If I love me first 
Then I will know Self Love 
and you will be able to love a whole person 

If I love me first
And you leave
You will not take essential pieces of me with you
And I can stay your loving friend forever 

If I love me first 
You can get a greatest gift that i can give 
I can give you the bounty of my own love 

So love me second 
And only & only then 
I can get the true quality and quantity of love 
THAT LIVES WITHIN YOU.


















Oct 16, '08



Although,this topic seems to be exclusively only for women,but in my opinion it is a matter of concern for every one who has mother, sister, daughter,wife or any female member in the family. But let me tell you october is not just the reminder of Breast cancer but also other cancers as well and how to take preventive measures against any cancer. So many lives are touched by it if one family member has this dreadful disease. Regular check up, self exam and early detection all are vitally important to save life. We can keep this disease at bay by empowerment of knowledge and proper diet. The more knowledge you have about this disease the better you can take care of yourself.There is this site called "GET BCF" developed to provide you with up to date helpful information about breast cancer , risk, diagnosis and treatment,risk of recurrence and ways to manage that risk.

The good news is that scientific validation for the protectective power is accumulating.By eating "RAINBOW" of food of colors or by emphasizing certain food groups, such as "Phytochemicals"found in red, orange,green and yellow vegetables. We are exposed to oxidizing and cancer producing substences daily but compounds found vegies help limit the free radicals initiation and DNA damage caused by those "Carcinogens"(cancer causing cells). Therefore, appear to lower incidence of vrious types of cancers including breast cancer. 

Four important foods to fight Cancer:

1-- FISH..fatty fish like Salmon,rohu, qatla and Sardine are high in Omega 3 which lowers the risk of cancer specially breast cancer. You should have atleast 3-5 servings in a week. 

2-- CRUCIFEROUS VEGETABLES..Broccoli,cauliflowers, cabbage are powerful cancer fighters because they contain antioxidant. They turn on the chemicals that are natural detox enzyme. Eat them raw or steamed to get their full benefits.

3-- BERRIES.. The more colorful the better their benefits. These fruits are rich in antioxidants which protect cells from damage. They contain ELLAGIC ACID which has shown to protect against breast cancer and certain other cancers. in Lab studies. Include these in your diet whenever you can. 

4--WHOLE GRAIN. It is a low fat source of fiber which regulates level of estrogen(female hormone) and insulin. The two hormones that are linked to breast cancer 

WHAT TO WATCH
1-- RED MEAT. You don't have to forgo it completely but limit them to 2 -3 servings a week. 1-5 servings a day doubles your chance to get the cancer 

2--ALCOHOL..As low as two drinks a day can increase risk of getting breast cancer but also other cancers also. 

In the end I would like to add , that please keep yourself up to date with the knowledge about this dreadful disease . Knowledge is power and it gives us ability to fight back and ablity to keep us healthy and beautiful person inside and out. You may not be important to the whole world but to one person you may be the world & your life is too precious.









Oct 10, '08



Alcohol related car accidents kill someone every 31 minutes and non fetality injures someone every 11 minutes. But there are effective measures that can be taken to prevent injuries and death from impaired driving. Every year in USA 16.000 or so die in alcohol related car crashes,representing 39% of traffic related deaths. 
Male drivers involved in a fatal motor vehicle crashes are almost twice as likely as female drivers. 
People driving should take preventive measures and can save thousand of lives If you are at the party and drinking you should not be driving . Get a cab or let someone drive you home. 
The lisence of drunk driver should be promptly suspended . There should be sobriety check points. 
What prompted me to write about drinking and driving is this poem I came across and it almost brought tears into my eyes. I would like to share it with you

I went to a party mom
I remembered what you said,
You told me not to drink ,mom
So I drank soda instead mom,

I really felt proud inside mom,
The way you said I would 
I didn't drink and drive mom,
Even though the others said I should

I know I did the right thing mom,
I know you are always right 
Now the party is finally ending mom 
As every one is driving out of sight

As I got into my car mom 
I know I would get home in one piece 
Because of the way you raised me 
So responsible and sweet 

I started to drive away mom 
But as I pulled out into the road 
The other car didn't see me mom, 
And hit me like a LoAD 

I lay there on the pavement mom 
i hear the police man say 
"The other guy is drunk" mom,
Now I am the one who will pay 

I am lying here dying mom 
I wish you would get here soon 
How could this happen to me mom 
I hear the medic say
I will die in a short time 

I just wanted to tell you mom 
I swear, I didn't drink 
It was the others mom 
The others did drink

He was at the same party as I 
The only difference is , he drank 
And I am going to die 

Why do people drink mom 
It can ruin your whole life 
I am feeling sharp pains now 
pains just like a knife 

The guy who hit me is walking mom 
And I dont think it is fair 
I am lying here dying 
And all he can do is stare.

Tell my brother not to cry mom 
Tell daddy to be brave 
And when I go to heaven mom
Put "Daddy's girl" on my grave 

Some one should have told him mom 
Not to drink and drive 
If only they had told him mom
I would still be alive 

My breath is getting shorter mom 
I am becoming very scared
Please don't cry for me mom
When I needed you 
You were always there for me

Before I say Good bye 
I tell you I didn't drink & drive
SO WHY AM I THE ONE TO DIE









Oct 07, '08




Detox tune up is a must to maintain your body's health and to get the toxins out of your system. Toxin built up can cause serious diseases. Our body is like a car.An efficient mechine that performs consistently only when it is given proper care,and just like a car needs a regular change of oil and vrious filters to eliminate the waste products that degrades their performance, our body needs to be cleared of the chemicals and toxins that clog it's system. Many of these toxins are destructives side effects of our chemical filled foods. From the pereservatives to additives found in the food or contaminants in the water supply. Body can process and eleminate some of the toxins and chemicals but the overload gets to stored in the liver, lungs, kidneys, fat cells , intestines, blood streems and skin,which can result in chronic illnesses down the road

You can feel fresh with this detoxify program every day if not , then atleast once a week. 
Begin your day with gentle stretches (warm up excercise)that warms up your body and awakens your mind. After that have a glass of warm water with one lemon squeezed into it. For the detox diet choose high fiber and organic foods. Eat more beans, brown rice, vegetables and fruits- raw if you can otherwise steamed, oat bran chicken or turkey. The super cleanse broth will really cleanse your system. To make simply prepare the broth from kale, collard greens, cabbage, water cress, cilantro, garlic, ginger, radish green onions fennels and turmeric. 

Drink your vegies in juice form Try a terrific detox juice made with aloe vera, apples, asparagus, beet greens, cabbage carrot greens, celery , cucumber and parsley. 
Soak for 20 minutes in revitalizing herbal bath to help draw out toxins . Infuse your water with eucalyptus, winter greens, peppermint, fennel,cinnamon and epsom salt. 

Herbal therapy ... Whether you steeped into tea or add them in cooking they are patent herbs to get toxins out. 

1- chrysanthemum(mums). It cleanses the liver, lowers blood pressure lowers cholestoral. and balances blood sugar. 

2- Dandalion root. Research shows it's roots enhances the flow of bile improving liver conditons such as hepatitis, gallstones, and jaundice. 

3- Hawthorn berry. A famous cardiovasculer tonic that has chockful of andioxidants. It is also known to cleanse the blood plaque. It also maintains the healthy cholestrol and blood pressure. 

4- Turmeric .. A common spice speeds up the elemination process in the whole body by increasing the bile production and releasing the elemination of heavy metals and other chemicals. 

5- Seeweed - It absorbs toxins from digestive system and has been thought to absorb and remove drugs, chemicals hevy metals from the body 
Even though,this detox program is approved by Dr. Mao.It is always a wise idea to check with your doctor to start any detox program. 

Here are some  anti aging foods. If you include them in your daily diet,you can always maintain a good health and stay young forever... haha just kidding.. but atleast it can slow down aging process.

These foods are loaded with antioxidants and anti aging components. They are, blueberry, fish, nuts, wine, olive oil, cruceferous vegetables such as califlower,cabbage,broccoli and ofcourse yougurt(my favorite).









Oct 05, '08



What an irony!! 13 years ago O.J. Simpson the famous football player and news caster was acquitted of double murder charges (his ex-wife and her friend) and now 13 years later on the very same day,he is convicted of robbing and kidnapping two sports-memorabilla dealers at the gun point in a Las vegas hotel room. In Las vegas punishment for kidnapping and armed robbery is severe as crime rates are high in gambling place. O.J could face from 15 to life without parole.

Simpson who went from American idol to celebrity in exile after his murder acquittal could spend the rest of his life in prison and he is 61 years old now.It is true that you can never get away with murder.Sooner or later the blood of innocent victims come back to haunt. In Simpson's case the spirits of his ex wife and her friend came back to get the revenge.

13 years ago he brutally murdered his ex-wife and her friend because of his obssession with his ex wife and raging jealousy,as he didn't want anyone to have her if he couldn't  have her.By hiring team of high profile lawyers and spending 4 million dollars he was acquitted of double murder charges. Now 13 years later he got convicted for a lesser charge.

So justice is finally served and spirits of the innocent victims will finally rest in peace.









Oct 02, '08



We all know what anger is .We have all felt it whether as a fleeting annoyance or as a full fledged "Rage". It is a normal emotion but when it gets out control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems and you are at the mercy of unpredictable and powerful emotion.The trick is to control anger before it controls you. All people's dispositions are not the same,some are angrier than the others. They are born grumpy.. sorry to say it. They have low tolerance for frustration and can't take every day annoyances in stride.Some people like their angry side as for some reason their rage makes them powerful. Sorry men, that is where you come in , sorry to say but the study shows that men feel "Macho" by expressing their anger as it makes them feel powerful and dominant.

But there are dark sides of this emotion if it is not controled ..Physical and social sides. Problems .. such as Ulcers and Heart attack.People who reached to stress with anger are 5 times more likely to have a heart attack even with or without a family history...Social life will be effected too... people will be either afraid to talk to you or stay away as far as they could. so how do you keep it under control People say it is nonsense you can't control it because it just happens and one can not redirect this powerful emotion ..but you are wrong you can redirect it Redirecting means simply changing the way when you think when you are angry Your thinking can get exaggerated and overly dramatic,but   by replacing it with "normal" words.you can put it to proper channel. . For instance, instead of telling yourself "oh it is awful .. it is terrible .. every thing is ruined... Tell yourself .. it is frustrating and it is understandable that I am upset about it but this is not the end of the world. and getting angry is not going to fix it. 

If you are angry with someone or in a fiery discussion .. slow down and think about what you are angry about? It also helps to listen to other person Listening will help you form a careful response . If you do this , you may even discover the underlying problem

Here are some tips to respond to anger situations. 
1- Step back and breathe. Count to ten before you say or do anything and be mindful of your breathing. If you still dont feel calm do it again and again.

2--  Go for a wallk in the fresh air. Walking in the fresh air is always a productive outlet for your emotion., besides releasing pent up energy your general physical feeling will improve Yoga breathing is also beneficial to calm you down. Take a deep breath from your stomach and release it through mouth slowly and keep saying in your mind,"you are calm and collective.

3- Imagine a calm and relaxing scene. Remember the time when you felt calm and at peace. close your eyes and travel back there. Allow yourself to be there for a while and feel yourself release. 

4- Empathize with the other person.
Try to see the situation from his/her point of view. 
Remember there is always more than one way to see things. 

5- Use "I" statements.. when talking about the problem or situation instead of criticizing or blaming the other person.... "I am upset that the kitchen didn't get cleaned after dinner" ..instead of "why is the kitchen still a mess" 
or "you should have cleaned it".

6- stop brooding or stewing... Mind talk is a major anger signal and one of the most destructive things you can do it to yourself. 
Rage starts when you loose control of your thoughts or feelings. 

YOU agree with me or disagree ,,, I need your opinion either way... Thanks.











Sep 20, '08



Aye zindagi tujhe dhoondun kahan 
Awaz de tuu hai kahan 
Maine dhoondha tujhe 

Nadia ki lahron mein 
Apnon mein ghairon mein
Phoolon mein kalyon mein 
Sapno ki galyon mein 
Titli ke rango mein 
Udti patango mein 
Khilte gulabo mein 

Saat aasmano mein 
Sare jehano mein 
Awaz de tuu hai kahan 

Dekha nahi phir bhi 
Teri soorat bunti rahti hun 
Teri aankhon ki apne dil par 
dastak sunti rahti hun 

Maine dhoondha hai tujhe 

Koil ke ku ku mein 
Sandal ki khushboo mein 
Badal ke aanchal mein 
Har lamha har pal mein 
Gaaon ki panghat mein 
Galyon ki chaukhat mein 
Barfeeli rahon mein 
Pedon ki bahon mein 

Awaz de tuu hai kahan

Meethi meethi jo ye kasak hai 
shayad ye pahla pyar hai 
Saanso mein jo anjani mehak hai 
Shayad yehi pahla pyar hai 

Dhoondha hai tujhe 
Is ras bhare mausam mein 
Sholon mein shabnam mein 
Chandni raaton mein 
Bheegi barsaton mein 
Sur ki udano mein 
Bhooli kahani mein 
Saat aasmano mein 
Sare jehanon mein 

Aaye zindagi main dhundhoon kahan 
Tujhe ab dhoondhun kahan