women( mother-inlaws & sis-inlaws) are equally involved.......

why blame men for everything?

Shar...

Its true that there is this group of men that ask for and get a dowry,

And we all understand that it is not just the man that wants it,

The family of the male seem to think that the value of there son is more so than the woman,

Most of the time when there is a son a daughter to marry off the family want more because they want to give there own girl more when she marries,

Its a merry go around, One takes and another give and take and so on,

Motherinlaws are to blame more so than others, It seems that the pain they received when her parents where forced to pay a dowry for her wedding, Is something that she feels she will force on down the line,

Then there is this feeling that a girl is costing them money by joining there family,

But one aspect that every one needs to focus on and understand is this,

Why is it that when we die, that we leave all we have to the boys of the family?

Iv always been of the thinking that if we where to share out what we have between both our son and daughter, then the dowry problem would die down,

Even the girl when she marries try to get as much out of her father as she can, because she knows that this is her last chance,

Maybe we could understand that a woman coming into ones family is a benefits not a burden,

 Iqbal

mr iqbal

u have shared ur views ,thanx.

 u r very right even girls seeks this as its her only chance to get from parents and like this she can show off in her inlaws.

Not only motherin laws but even other members of family  r also seekers.

mr somash

ur views that those who cannot stand /out shine at their seek shelter under dowry system. its really true. greediness also plays important role. one is not contented with wt one has.

dowry is not a good thing.  I am not  brought dowry.  I am a post graduate and when I was in marriage I am getting good salary.  Inthat time how much money

told that is getting. DOWRY IS NOT PROMOTE.

Vambanar Sir,

are u on a posting spree..............It's Vambanar-Vambanar all the way top to bottom on  forums page.

Keep the adrenalin pumping!

Shar...

Perhaps they are in love with the girl's money instead of the girl!

It has a different past and as of now it has taken shape of devil. Say hundred years ago men were going out to work or establish their independent identity and women were not financially independent.

It was always mother of the boy and along with quiet compliance it became a cultural process.

Asking money was with objective to spen money on the marriage and gifts etc.

As women became educated and independent it is not seen any more.

However again the parents of girls have a reason to flaunt their son in law as well as a status symbol and thus they want to buy them out.

so i belive educated independent women are the answer and we all should try to atleast eductae one women and help her to become independent.

hope i am in line with your thoughts.

I Think they are in love with the fathers money

So why not marry him ,

Iqbal