Just this Sunday, I was in a cafetaria and was enchanted by this beautiful young girl opposite my seat. I confess that I really could not take my mind off her. She made certain "Conscious" movements like fiddling with her hair aggressively and other things when I could steal  certain glances at her.

Being a shy, reflective and sensitive guy, I felt defeated.

After much deliberation, I came to realize that that there was no reason to regret. Being thirty and an eligible bachelor, I felt that I have to transcend these adolescent trains of thought.

I went on to think that a realistic, fulfilling and meaningful relationship would lure me to think on these planes:

- Looks - beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. There have been times when I was very attracted to girls which were "beautiful", but not by conventional 36-24-36 anorexic standards.

- Connection - meeting of the intellects, feelings and rapport. Understanding, mutual nurturing, respect, "softness and romance" etc.

- Life situations and practicalities - thinking in a long term perspective (many variables come to play at this)

I'm sorry, I'm thirty - I can't get carried away by just another pretty face.

I would like to know from the women on this thread what would they really want from a guy in a relationship.