Choosing the Right One

 
An Important half of yours...
Somebody who is going to be with you in everything ...
The one who is going be with you forever...

To Choose this person you surely need to think a lot, you have to know what you are looking for..

But the first and foremost thing is to understand what marriage actually is all about.

The necessity of Marriage:

Three purposes
a. To eliminate solitude
A person always needs somebody to be with. It can be family, friends or anybody. But in spite of all of them a person needs somebody who is very close to him/her to help out in everything to give company, to share everything above all to fill up the loneliness.

b. To prevent immorality and to provide enjoyment.
To regulate the function of sex in a way that it may serve to uplift man and woman.

c. To bring children into the world and to provide adequately for the care and nurture of their bodies, minds and souls.
The need to grow together as a family showing all the love and affection to each other and keep the world still going on.


Principles Governing Marriage:

i. Leave father and mother to form a new family
ii. Cleave to one another
iii. Become one flesh
iv. To have intimacy
v. Intended Monogamous
vi. Demand physical & Mental faithfulness
vii. For a lifetime


1. The Search for a Spouse:

What to look for
A. Your own equal
B. Some Traits That are Important:

Major----------------------------Minor----------------------Minor
Character------------------------------- Like------------------------ Humor
Knowledge---------------------- Commonsense ---------------Healthy Body
Faithfulness----------------------- Sympathy -----------------Understanding
Confidence------------------- Cheerfulness -----------------------Nature
Stability-------------------------- Kindness--------------------- Self-control
Comradeship------------------ Courtesy------------------------- Discipline
Adaptability-------------- Thoughtfulness----------------Deep seated values
Patience------------------------ Cleanliness--------------- Respect for people



2. What to Avoid

A. Person with a criminal record
B. Person with known "Bad" habits
C. Person who has scant respect for authority

3. What to Expect

A. A spouse who is imperfect
B. A person who is different in nature (Sometimes Diametrically from our mental picture).
C. A person who is physically and mentally different
D. Quarrels
E. Egos
F. In-laws interference
G. Anger
H. Laziness
I. Criticism
J. A sharp tongue


4. How do you define the "Right" Spouse?

Some Important Questions to consider

- What place does God have in His/Her life?
- Do you like one another?
- Do you respect one another?
- Do you share, the same value system together?


- Do you respect each other's families too?
- Can you talk easily and for long?
- Are you intellectually on the same level?
- Do you have common interests?
- How do you feel about the important areas of your life like children, cash, clans, and companions? 

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