Soul Mates...

This blog is my take on the question a blogger on Sulekha asked in her blog Does Soul Need a Mate? 


The nature of the soul is something all of us have distinct definitions for. We understand SOUL in different ways. 


I understand Soul as that within me that makes me decide… to make value judgments… to evaluate what is right and what is wrong. This is the crux of the whole matter. 


Let me take an example. In the recent war here on Sulekha… each of the warring factions was 100% sure that they were right. This contradicts the basic axiom that the TRUTH is what is right…. Because it throws a spanner into our assumption that there is only one truth. 


None of the warring factions believed that they were not standing with the truth. They all were sure theirs was the truth. So how can there be so many versions of the truth? 


The only way I can explain it is this: 

There are so many versions of truth… because each person’s style of the soul is different. Each soul has had different experience… for all the millennia it has been in existence... And the millennia… the experiences… have left their mark on the soul. 


In any situation requiring an evaluation, each soul will see things in a different way. Each soul has a different take… For each the priorities are different. Hence the question turns out to be not… What is the truth? But instead… What is the truth I see? 


Each soul’s vantage point is unique. And so the panorama before it is unique too.
When we find another soul which sees things more or less as we see them… it wordlessly proves to us that the soul has been stamped in the same way as we have been. It is then natural to gravitate towards such a soul… for that soul is our mate… having gone through experiences similar to ours. That soul is what can understand our pain… for it has felt it too… and with the same intensity. That soul has our trust automatically… for we know that when it advises us… it demonstrates its style... the same style we demonstrate. Hence the bonding… the loyalty… the stand- up- for- me even- to- get- shot. 


To the extent that a soul shares our vantage point… that soul is our mate. But surely there will be points of differences. That’s the time some reconciliation needs to be done. 


Naturally then, a soul can have many soul mates…. Why not..? There might be many souls stamped similar to the way we have been. Similar- not identical. For that is hardly possible. The more the points of similarity in the stamping, the stronger is the bonding. 


As for losing a soul mate…. I don’t think it is possible to lose. We might be distanced… we might not be able to interact… but we will know forever that somewhere in the world there lives a soul which is our style of soul. And if all the stories about life after death are to be believed… that one day we will meet again… merged into the supreme. 


Loneliness…? Yes we feel lonely. When the soul mate is not close to us. When we are hurting and there the mate is not there to give us hope. The others… whose style of soul is different from ours…. do offer solace… but it doesn’t console us. For we know they don’t feel the pain we do. 


Style of soul is something which goes beyond sharing of similar experiences. To these shared experiences is added the value system… the priorities in the values. This is unique to us. We may share values with many. For example, integrity maybe an important value for many… but it may not be THE most important value… as it is for me. When I find a soul for whom this value is THE most important too… who has similar priorities in other values… and who has had similar experiences… that person is my soul mate. And there maybe many for whom this may be true. 


To say a person is a soul mate merely on the basis of shared experiences… is where the confusion is created. We can have empathy with such a person… we can share their pain… they can share ours. We can cry on each other’s shoulders. We may even advice each other… and have the advice well received. But they are not our soul mates. The experience is basically transitory. Because the basis… the values… are absent. It is shared values that bring total unquestioning loyalty and trust. 


The soul has no gender… and travels alone from this world to the next. But while it resides in the world… the need for a mate is there. Human capability is a function not only of skill… but also of inspiration. Tell me of a bigger inspiration than to KNOW there is someone who feels as you do… who cares about things as you do… and just for that reason… has a stake in your life… in your success…. as big a stake as you have. 


Soul Mate… I don’t know about you… I need them. They multiply me… they make me buoyant… they empower me… validate me… just by existing. It is enough to know that they are there… even far from me… somewhere. Just that… nothing else… it is so much… to know that. 


They make me want to stand taller… because then I can see them past the horizon… They give me energy… to walk my path… for the walk brings me closer to them. I know, when I get closer to them they will pat my back. It means so much that pat- because it would come from someone who has the same STYLE OF SOUL as I do. 


Solidarity…? Yes…! I know you heard me. I told you… I’ll tell you someday. 


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Note to the reader: I didnt write this to demonstrate how wonderful and brilliant I am. THAT hardly needs more demonstration.... lol.... This just an attempt to drop a pebble in the placid pool of your mind. Please punch as many holes in this as you can. This is a free for all...

For once... Please... lets us discuss something to shreds... and if you leave without a comment... I know where to find ya honey... 

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Tags: love, truth, integrity, values, soul mate, solidarity

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