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Posted on: Apr 18, '08

What one wants in life….?

A few years back, one sleepy afternoon, I turned on the TV to find that an interesting documentary on Discovery channel was being aired. It was about a woman, a photo-journalist, who covered Bosnian war.

Although I cannot remember her name now, but I guess she is well known (the documentary itself was evidence to this and it also mentioned about a movie made on her life and war experience in which Andy McDowell portrayed her).

She narrated an incidence that happened during her stint in Bosnia. She had a boyfriend (a fellow journo), who had gone to cover the war there before her, and then disappeared. Worried for him, she went on searching for him when sent there herself on assignment. Fearing the worst, she looked in every possible place she hoped to find him. And finally, found him in a dilapidated hospital, badly wounded. Unfortunately, soon afterwards there was an attack on that hospital. She knew, horrified, that whoever couldn't manage to run away from hospital would be brutally killed.

This is where she almost choked trying to hold back her tears. Meanwhile, I dreaded the thought that she might have watched helplessly her boyfriend being killed. Then,…she spoke again. She informed us that they both managed to escape with help of a few locals.

So what was the cause of her grief then, I wondered? Well, it so happened that her boyfriend informed her that he was saved and brought to hospital by a local girl. She was also taking good care of him and he had fallen in love with her!!! Later, her (ex) boyfriend married that local girl and settled there. Well, our photo-journo lady was broken-hearted and returned home after finishing her assignment. She somehow got over the harrowing experiences of the war, but she couldn’t get over this.

I’ve always wondered since then what made her still hanker after her ex? She had everything in the world; a great career, lots of adventure, a slew of enviable assignments, fame, and awards. She could easily be a role model to others; I could myself give anything in the world to be like her. But all she wanted was getting married to her ex and raising a family!

It seems nobody wants what he/she has got in life, they want something else, something just opposite of it :-(.

Tags: life, want, desire, love, ex, bosnia, war, photo, journalist, movie, dicovery channel

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Eccentricity said:
Clarification: (I knew someone would point that out :)

Dear LedZep,

From the last line of my comment, I meant I'd like to have a great career, lots of adventure, a slew of enviable assignments, fame, and awards, just like Ellsen. :-)

And it will take another 4 years to be more forgiving about spelling mistakes (you'd probably have left Fropper for greener pastures by then). So for now, please use spell-checker of your word processor before you post on my zone/blog. Or even better, download google toolbar<toolbar.google.com> for your browser that comes with built-in spell-checker.

Hope this helps.

April 25, '08

Ledzep said:
hey! found your note and the comments more fascinating...

so what exactly are you saying in the last line of your comment? that all you'd like is to marry your ex and raise a family???

ps. seems like you've learnt to tolerate(?) yourself a little more. wonder if you would be a little more forgiving of spelling mistakes than you claim in your profile :-)!

April 25, '08

Screech said:
Typical case! She is a busy journo. I guess she hasn't met many men in her life because of her busy life. I don't know what was so special about her ex, but its clear she was very emotionally attached to him. It takes some time to get over it. She needed to take a break and start dating more men; maybe then she'd have found out that the world is full of interesting people.

Her ex was a fellow journo so I guess they shared similar interests, and were able to be together most times. There was better understanding between them. She thought she'd never find a person like him.

I don't blame her ex for falling in love with the local who helped him recover. As I said this is a typical case in war struck areas.

I know women who don't give a damn about love and are more interested in preserving genes or produce genetically superior babies.

I don't think the women in the article had any family plans, but felt devasted because of her personal loss.

April 25, '08

ramanaprapancham said:
love is light in the path of life

April 24, '08

ASYLUM said:
Thanks for the information. It's a relief to know that you were able to see the tone of your post and feel differently now. definitely wiser! :)

April 24, '08

Eccentricity said:
Hi folks,

I'd like to tell you something about this post...

This post is from another of my blog I used to maintain some 4 years back (now defunct). I wrote the original post sometime around late 2003, after watching a documentary on Discovery channel about Isabel Ellsen (as I was later informed by one of the readers of my old blog).

The episode that I narrated in the post, was the basis of a movie "Harrison's Flowers" and was from Ellsen's book titled "Babé of Sabre Rattler".

April 24, '08

Eccentricity said:
Much water has flowed under the bridge since I wrote the original post. I have gone through many changes in my life since then; suffered from heartbreak myself. When I re-read this post in 2008, I find my tone rather insensitive and over-critical. Perhaps I've mellowed with the age, become more patient and wiser (hopefully). I guess now I sympathize with Ellsen and accept her with her with her weakness.

But as I've always known: Life goes on. It must have gone on for Ellsen as it did for me. And, one day we come out of any grief, however big, that life has brought our way and carry on with our lives.

And I still am willing to swap places with Ellsen.

April 24, '08

rishi_in_search said:
she loved him.
but he loved another girl.
Both done the right thing.

April 19, '08

rishi_in_search said:
for love u can leave every thing ,
but u cant leave love for anything.A loveless life has no meaning.

April 19, '08

kashish99 said:
I guess that’s what life is. Its something like life gave us 90paise out of 100 and kept 10 and all we do is chase and chase to get that 10paise rather enjoying or utilizing the 90 we have.......most of the time things which are unseen or inexperienced fascinates us.
Nice blog:)

April 19, '08

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