Posted on: Apr 27, '08
lies lies lies!
Lies adversely effect all of our lives. In truth, liars gain short term protection, and long term disconnection with truth and reality...it is a very dangerous game to play with people.
Pathological Liars:
A pathological liar is someone who lies incessantly to get their way and does so with little concern for others.
Pathological lying is often viewed as coping mechanism developed in early childhood and it is often associated with some other type of mental health disorder
Pathological liar is often goal-oriented (lying is focused - it is done to get one's way).
Some suffer from sociopathy, and have only the drive to protect themselves and seek out what they desire at any cost.
Pathological liars are very selish and have very little regard or respect for the rights and feelings of others.
Pathological liar often comes across as being manipulative, cunning and self-centered.ME ME ! and ME people.
Pathological liars become evasive or flustered when pressed about their finances,
Pathological liars who have taken their habit of lying past childhood into adulthood will commonly have some tendency toward swindling others.
Pathological liars may often cheat you of your money and belongings,and put you into debt.
He or she offer sad, extensive and somewhat "decorated" stories in relation to their finances or about items acquired, but will not pay you what they owe you!
They are caught up in the illusory life that they have created and unless pushed to the breaking point they will not admit to their lies.
If you call them on a lie and they are backed into a corner, they will act very defensively and start to talk like, " You're making a big deal out of nothing!"
They do it to refocus the conversation on your wrong doing of questioning them instead of theirs of lying to you!
Unmasking the pathological liar is an easier task when the pathological liar is no more than a casual acquaintence to the "un-masker." ie he/she is not related to you.
Close relationships provide camouflage for the pathological liar, and you end up trying to hide them and provide a cover up for them .
Intimacy provides a heavily-fortressed breeding ground to pathological liars.That is how some children learn the ABC of lying...
A true pathological liar does not generally have the subconscious to associate reality from fallacy and will not distress over the situation
Because these people don't value honesty, a lot of times they will not value loyalty, faithfullness etc.
Their loyalty is fleeting, so watch what you tell them. They will not only tell it to others, but they will embellish it to make you look worse.
I am sure you know all the pathological liars in your life by now!
Compulsive Liars:
A compulsive liar is defined as someone who lies out of habit.
Lying is their normal and reflexive way of responding to questions.
Compulsive liars bend the truth about everything, in large and small ways .
For a compulsive liar, telling the truth is very awkward and uncomfortable while lying feels right.
Compulsive lying is usually thought to develop in early childhood, due to being placed in an environment where lying was necessary. ( see previous blog)
For the most part, compulsive liars are not manipulative and swindling type of cunning.
It is true that most of them have an extremely low sense of self worth and are continuously trying to make themselves feel better about THEMSELVES and this is one reason they lie.
It is about them but the lies are not always set up with the purpose to hurt some one else.
These people feel so low about themselves they need to create SOMETHING , very different from the ugly reality they feel about themselves , to feel better.
(wooo hooo Soni dear do you want to tell them the truth about your real age ???
I must confess before I go that I chopped off 20% of my years on earth to feel good about myself!
I gladly confess that I should have called myself soni.antie (40 +) instead of soni.kudi
My dear fropping friends, when I joined fropper last year, I was in a panic situation. I knew not that life begins at 40, I thought it ends there!
Anyway, if I have caused unintentional stress to someone by this act of mine, I do beg for forgivness.
Now that I am cured and feeling good about myself, I urge others who are still sick to start taking medication.
It comes in small doses from real friends in real messages, scraps and makes you feel so worth it! )
If you think you have any of the above mentioned symptoms, do seek Help! Visit the shrink, Or fropp!(Its highly effective most of the time.)
Cheers!
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