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Posted on: Jul 03, '08


 RELATIONS..... sometimes are worth CTRL+ALT+... DELETE

Sometimes your own blood relatives HARM YOU more than anything else....

Sorry friends i couldn't come online for various reasons --- primary being that i was disturbed by my own blood... i mean by my own younger brother....

Sometimes I feel that when as a male I am facing so many problems being a widow... which are much more than a hell, then what will happen to LADIES who become widow.....

Well enough of beating round the bush let's come straight to the point...

For friends who have not read all my BLOGS.... My wife passed away on DEC 1st 2007 due to multi organ failure arising out of CHRONIC KIDNEY failure....

I was the first to get her TESTS done in NOV 2005 and as per the TESTS ..... one KIDNEY did not grow to its required size due to some functional error in the body... so primarily she was BORN with a single Kidney from BIRTH....

Well two days back ie on TUESDAY my brother calls me and tells me I want to talk to you seriously... I thought something regarding my both daughters 11 years and 9 years old....

But then can you just imagine what he told me...... ARRRRRGGGGHHHH.... I cannot explain my feelings.......

HIS WORDS "DO YOU KNOW ONE THING........................ YOUR WIFE'S DAD SOLD HER ONE KIDNEY WHEN SHE WAS 10 YEARS OLD TO SOLVE SOME FINANCIAL CRISIS............."

Sadly he doesn't know that I have personally got all her tests done and still have all test reports which prove that SHE was born with ONE KIDNEY only........

ARE YOU ABLE TO UNDERSTAND MY FEELINGS.............. THIS THING DID NOT HURT ME COS I KNEW THE FACTS..... BUT THEN I HAVE BEEN DISTURBED FROM 2 DAYS THAT WHAT MADE MY BROTHER TELL ME THIS??????????????????????????????? WHAT ARE HIS INTENTIONS????

Inspite of opposition from my family I still visit my wife's dad regularly... common he has lost his daughter.... may be he wanted me to fight with FIL(Father in Law)....

I mean the more I think, the more I get confused.......................................

Can anybody help me............... Just tell me why did he tell me this??????????????

sorry friends will be more regular now.........................



Tags: family, bereaved, brother, love, relations, kidney, truth, lies, proof, facts, widow, life





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dineshprofessor said:
whats life without problems...???? talk to your bro and ask him what the big difference it makes him either. let him not dig into issues which he is least aware of. but however you forget his ''concern''. lest you take care of yourselves. think future not whats gone past

August 09, '08


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mmm65 said:
Read your blog. I don't know what to comment....!!!
But this is common in most of the relatives.
Have courage and confidence &
Hope for the bright future.

July 09, '08


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bsriya said:
The more u pay attention towards his words the more he will try to disturb u.......face him rigidly n make him understand wht ever u feel like ...in terms of ur late wife n FIL, u will do n no one in this earth has the rt n audacity to protest or comment against ......be firm.......God will b with u
tc

July 09, '08


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Friend_in_Mumbai said:
Hi -I am Sunder360 from Mumbai. I have been reading your mails. This last mail was touching. My situation is almost same as yours as my wife expired 5 years before. She left me so much confidence in me that today I am independent, cook my own food, clean my own ouse, wash my own clothes, and have no serveant since last two years. I stay alone in a beautiful appartment overlooking India`s famous "Shivaji Park". I am the happiest person in India. I have never been touchy or sensetive. My attitude towards life is focused and I do not take life seriously. Today, I am 77 and work 8 hours on computer [I have my own 3 computers, as I do lot of online trading for shares, mutual funds, and gold. Mr PK you are a Man, and you dont need any shoulders to cry. Face the fact, and relax. Enjoy while your are living. Best Wishes,
sunder360 AT yahoo DOT com
mob:9867201030

July 08, '08


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tenjade_destiny said:
awesome post olive....it is difficult to comment and suggest tooo, yet i really appreciate the candidness and clearheartedness with which u have written this blog...kudos to u for facing such a cruel truth so boldly in ur life, still questioning though, yet finding the answes within...

July 07, '08


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jai72 said:
U have enogh suggetions . just make a conclusion an do it...........
but life is life......

July 06, '08


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Nazlini said:
I feel that you need to talk one on one basis with your brother, as to where he got all info about your wife, show him you have proof of your wife report. Hope things go well for you my friend.

July 05, '08


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notjustart said:
Ya it happens with most of us...But there is no way we can get away from our relatives can we? Continue with life dear...

July 05, '08


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geetsudha said:
im so sorry to hear that u r hurting.hv strength to bear it.if v just take life as a witness,not get involved with happy and sad events,one can live butifully. but coming to ur question,what matters is u luved ur wife, u know the facts,whatever others feel and say really does x matter.but to find out who is ur own,one just hv to c who understands u,who really cares for u.if ur brother does x care about ur feelings,he is x sensitive person to know ur hurt,then u hv ur answer.its x necessary that ur blood relation will love u,they cud b suffering frm jealousy,resentment,possesiveness etc.but if it was me,i wud confront it with the brother and also tell him, how insensitive he is as a person.u r a gud human being,loving person,v as friends love u,care about u.b strong for ur daughters sake.

July 05, '08


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harsh7901 said:
well pk...what can be said on this... i mean can't u give benefit of doubt to ur brother? maybe he just wanted to talk with u n happen to choose the wrong subject??...u know the truth n hv proof too...so why in doubts now???
grow up pk...why don't u keep urself more occupied? how can u hv time to think all unnessesary?...
its good to be good to ur FIL... i suggest u to be good to ur bro n dad too...like smile..goodness too is contagious.. just try sincerely...
n one more thing pk.. life ought to give all sorts of problems...try n look down...u'll see ppl with much bigger problems surviving...
thanks for sharing brother..best wishes..

July 05, '08

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