Posted on: Jul 14, '08
Agonizing over a decision
Regretting a decision
I was reading Natboyvirens blog about agonizing over decisions, which I thought from a different perspective which I couldn’t leave as comment on this blog...here u go..
On a serious front if you really happen to give a thought on this aspect, how many ppl make decisions in reality? When I say in reality that means just for themselves, its like yes I m making this decision for myself and my happiness and its sole responsibility stands on me kind. Well..you ll see this as words but looking into the minds of humans there are several factors which affect the decision making of any Indian household...I m specifying Indian household here coz I think I know them better than any other people, though I have come across other peoples decision making as well..
Indian household is usually built on emotions, leading to relationships, and bondage . Most of ppl leave decision making to one person of the family because we all think that person takes decision on the best interest of the family or situation relative to that. Going back why we regret out decisions, coz we usually tend to push the responsibility of decision making to somebody else as easily as we can pass a pinch of salt, why cant we make decisions of our own?...thats because it takes lots of thinkings of past, present and future which we aren’t not ready to face, in a way we aren’t very ready to face the reality, if you consider the whole lot of Indian population there are very less people who would say that they made this decision coz they felt it was right for them and it made them happy. Its such a rare scenario coz thats the way we have been grown up in a system, which we are taught of values and respect, I m not saying its wrong but its not completely right either.
Whenever we are at the cross roads of making decision why are we always pushed to see what happens to others? Assume if we are in situation of decision making and that decision of whatever we are taking ll surely make us happy, but it might not make 50% of ppl involved happy, so we keep buying time to make things work and make every body happy and look for happy ending...yes saying that I m a firm believer in thought of if there is no happy ending thats not an end of the story.. by saying that might be I m not facing the reality at all...how many of us can say next time we make a decision we ll make a decision which makes me happy abt that irrespective of whatever the situation or other players involved...its not that dus ka dum reality show, I am not sure whether this question is there in the show or not....but its true that there wouldn’t be lot many ppl who would say and do the same...hence we regret the decisions we make... apart from that we start to crib on things and whine and whine for ever saying we should have made better decisions for ourselves when we realize that situation nor the people involved doesn’t exist anymore... or they have made their own...and moved on and are happy.
Until we make decisions which makes us happy we ll keep regretting... hence whoever regrets should make stronger decisions to keep themselves happy first to make others happy.
Tags: emotions, bondage, relationships, decisions
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