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Posted on: Aug 05, '08

A letter to Nikhita... - Edited - 6-Aug-08

A Letter to Nikhita…

Hello Madam Nikhita,
Take a few moments to read this letter, while the entire nation is debating your rights and country’s laws and media is having grand gala time with all the sensation that is being created by this case.

I have been following the case as well as your plight and I just have a few questions to ask you and with all your conscience you may try to find answers to these questions.

1. What if the diagnosis was wrong? With all the technological advancement that we have in front of us, we are only getting as close as we can, but we can never be able to pin point the problem the fetus has at the present moment inside you. It may so turn out that when the child is actually born, it could be alright or the problem could minimize. How would place yourself in that situation?

2. What if the doctors did not find out or conclude there was a problem to the fetus at this stage? It was your case that the doctors did diagnose to some extent the problem ad are speculating that the baby could have serious problem at birth. What if they did not inform you and allowed the baby to be born? Does it not mean that you are at the wish and whim of the doctors that you consult? Does it mean that the baby’s survival or death is in the doctors’ hands?

3. What if you (or the doctors) find out the purported defect at the time of birth? Would you still go to court to kill the baby?

4. What if the baby is born blind or deaf, in which case, the technology has not yet come up to predict before birth? Would you still want the baby killed?

5. Your argument and the doctors argument is that the baby if born might not lead a normal life. Now, what is a normal life? A baby born with all its organs normal and functioning at the time of birth is not 100% assured of leading a normal life for ever so to speak. So many things could go wrong after birth that could render the child’s life abnormal. What are your options in that case?

6. The entire nation is now talking about the ‘right’ of the mother to kill / abort her baby. What right does the mother has to kill a baby after it is born? What is the big difference if you kill the baby when it is inside your womb or outside your womb?

7. Finally, what would you normally have done if there were no defects diagnosed by the doctors? You would have given birth to a ‘normal’ baby, that could lead a ‘normal’ life? In fact, the baby would never know if it is leading a normal life or abnormal life when it is born. It is YOU who would not be able to lead a ‘normal’ life with such a baby to take care. It is YOU who would have to go through all the sufferings and extra tension to care of a handicapped baby. It is you who don’t want to leave your ‘comfort zone’ to take care of this special child that is going to be born. Please don’t blame the nature or God or the baby for this situation. It is YOU and only YOU who don’t want to take the extra effort that might be required to raise a 'special child'.

God gives special children to ‘special people’. Those who have the love and affection towards mankind in abundance, God entrusts such special children, who are actually ‘angels’ sent by God to test your perseverance. Please do not kick away this golden chance to bring up a special angel, that has been sent to you by God, to make you also a Special Mother, not an Ordinary Mother.

Laws or no Laws, rights or no rights, wrongs or no wrongs, Its God’s gift to you and take it as it comes to you. You are nobody else could predict what is going to happen tomorrow nor change it.

Thanks for giving a few moments of your time and I hope I said what I wanted to say here.

Dear friends, Thanks a ton for participating in this discussion. I am reproducing an opinion by a medical doctor (Dr. Rajashekher) posted in Times of India's forum,
KLIK to see the Original post
Quote:
In this instance, the unborn child has been found to have congenital complete heart block, as per the newspaper. Now, this is a defect which can only be found out by performing an ECG, so I am left wondering how the doctors actually arrived at this diagnosis. Secondly, CHB as it is called, need not be fatal, and in fact, is very easily treated by inserting a pacemaker into the heart chamber, most of the times, the ventricle. Given current technology, it should be possible to insert this pacemaker even while the child is still within the womb, at least in some advanced centers. Given this information, I believe that in this particular instance, the Mehtas have no right to deny their child a right to live, and so the court ruling is correct simply on this ground, in addition to all the technical grounds which they cited. In general, I believe that abortion and killing a child in the womb on the grounds of some possible defect, without being conclusively proved, is not just cruel, it is also bad science, since it doesn't allow scientific endeavor to improve life, to play its role. In this respect it has the same effect on science as does euthanasia. But like euthanasia, a certain degree of freedom should be allowed to the indvidual on a case by case basis, which is surely worthy of debate.

Some of the readers r going overboard in criticizing the judgment on the grounds that the birth of a child who is physically or mentally handicapped is such an agony to the parents that it is worse than killing them! This hyperbole needs to be tempered by some strong scientific points which we must keep in mind, which are:
1)It is not possible to conculsively prove in the intra-uterine state that child will have or will not have a given physical handicap or a mental handicap of such a degree or not, by any means.
2)The said defect in this child was of a kind which did not merit such a drastic step
In fact, when this child grows up and learns of the debates and discussioon around his birth, and realizes that his parents were hell bent on killing him for a defect which was so easily treated, I have no doubts that the mental agony caused to him at that time will be worse than death.

- Dr. Rajashekher.
UNQUOTE.

Also please read the comment from Mr. ANIL KUMAR NAIR on similar case, wherein the parents are going through extreme suffering and supporting Mehtas for their decision.

And the Lawyers' opinion is the first posting under the above TOI forum, which could mean that Nikhita still can get the go-ahead to 'terminate' the child...!!!

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sonikudi37 said:
ZINDAGI AUR MAUT UPAR WALE KE HATH ME HEIN hum to sirf katputli hein

August 14, '08

Satya_GN said:
AND LAST.. CAN SOMONE PURSUE FROPPER TEAM TO REMOVE KING BULLS POSTING? IF THE MOTHER READS IT. YOU ARE KILLING HER WITH YOUR QUESTIONS. YOU ARE HURTING A HURT SOUL. YOU ARE FUELING A FIRE.

IF YOU GET WHAT I MEAN. YOU ARE A STAR. IF NOT CAN YOU PLEASE POST A COMMENT ADDRESSING TO THE MOM AND TENDER HER YOUR LOVE AND AFFECTION AS A BROTHER

AND I KNOW YOU WOULD DO IT MATE. THANKS A TON FOR THAT

August 12, '08

Satya_GN said:
and a reply to KHALIDKHAN.
YEs i do accept in all religion we belive in the almighty. But then he can come and cure everyone and thats why he made doctors.. they are a representative of gods cure and care.. and please dont say that let the child be born and the god will cure it. If God would/could have done, why did the baby have to suffer in the first point?
God is not going to do anything here. am sorry if hurt someones feelings here. But only the doctors are there to cure us. and thats whaat they are here for and we can depend on anyone. this is not a movie where you go and pray before god for 10 hours and the baby comes out all good.. its life mate. you need to know reality and life and not the scriptures as it says. read it once again. doctors are the almighty's MESSIAHS.

August 12, '08

Satya_GN said:
And guys.. forget the so called sentiment.. cultural and moral values. Do you think its our moral value to knowingly let someone suffer like this. Do you think in our so called indian culture that you would want someone to suffer? i know what you think now? dont the indian culture says that we should help the needy? Yes it does.. But it never said put some in a situation where he would need something.
All these blogs.. i just get pissed off and never write back on my own. But then guys.. i know the pain of nurturing someone who is suffering and losing them. Lets not put these couple in the same position.
Let them be happy!!! do you think they gonna be happy? no. not really. but yes.. they can be happy to some extent by aborting the fetus.
Please when we talk about culture. lets read between the lines and get to know what they really mean and then lets voice our concerns.
God bless Methas and thier family

August 12, '08

Satya_GN said:
Hi All, I do accept most of what you say? But how many people have lived with chronically ill people who have to suffer all the time. I have seen few who have suffered a lot with someone close to them having to live with Chronic disease. They cant lead a normal life. the life of the people does not tend to be normal anymore. what do you mean by NORMAL LIFE? someone who can live like others do.. doesnt necesarily mean that you wont get diseases at last. But some one who can enjoy the simple pleasures of life. Some one who can run around like the other kids in the block. Some one who can go for swimming his parents. Some one who can live a life on himself/herself without having to depend on others to do everything for them and care for them.. Thats what a normal life is.
If the child is born, do you know the kind of mental agony its parents and those around it should go through? Do you know how many people would lead theri normal life coz of this baby.

August 12, '08

gitfewp said:
The baby has congential heart problems
If the child is born think about the trauma the family has to undergo.
They will have no happiness and peace of mind.
The parents will incurr loss of money by treating the child.
Those opposing the abortion, Will they help the parents for the treatment of the child?
No, no one is going to help and the parents will have to bear all this alone
It is better if the foetus is aborted.
Thats what the parents like then why objection from others???

August 12, '08

King-Bulls-Ring said:
Dear Poojari,
I am sure you would agree that without human senitment and emotinal (read religious) attachments, we would be no different from animals.
Let me ask you a question:
By the same scale, why not give permission to kill living children or men/women too, with those kind of chronic incurable deceases.??? Who is stopping the parents to do so..??? which will be something similar to 'Euthanasia'..???

That will leave this world without any handicapped humans (kill them in the womb or after they are born.. whats the difference..???) and those 'perfectly normal' people only will live happly everafter..
Will they..???

August 12, '08

poojari143 said:
Lokk around nature there is inbuilt system to eliminate the unfit. It is only the human sentiment and religious concoctions create all the hue and cry when the issue of abortion or euthanasia pop up. If science and healthcare is meant for healthy happy living of humans keep in abeyance personal and religius sentiments and go for medical intervention if deformity in womb like Spina bifida,coronaryor, or any neural problems are diagnosed. A child living with chronic disease will in no way make either the parents or the child happy.

August 12, '08

rana1900 said:
The decision court in case of is perfect, Nikhita has no right to abort a fetus on the doctor's diagnosis, i agree with the latter written to Nikhita as above. God Nikhita and her husband "KO KADBUDHI DE AUR BACHCHE KO JANM LANE DE."

August 12, '08

khalidkhan1975 said:
sorry for loginbg late anyway the baby has congential heart problem says doctor but how can he be so true in his judgement ,its all upto almighty god ,so let the baby take birth and pray to almighty that please cure the defect of babay and send a healthy baby to earth which will lead thy name in this world and light the candle of life and prosper in his vision for what thy sent him .

August 12, '08

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