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Posted on: Aug 31, '08


 child care??!!

Placing babies into childcare is a form of abuse, according to leading children's author Mem Fox.

The author of the best-selling 'Possum Magic' said that she believed society would look back on the trend of allowing infants only a few weeks old to be put into childcare and wonder, "How could we have allowed that child abuse to happen?".

"I just tremble. I don't know why some people have children at all if they know that they can only take a few weeks off work," News.com.au quoted her, as saying.

"I know you want a child, and you have every right to want a child, but does the child want you if you are going to put it in childcare at six weeks?

"I don't think the child wants you, to tell the honest truth. I know that's incredibly controversial," she added.

She said a Queensland childcare worker had told her earlier this year: "We're going to look back on this time from the late '90s onwards - with putting children in childcare so early in their first year of life for such long hours - and wonder how we have allowed that child abuse to happen".

"It's just awful. It's awful for the mothers as well. It's completely heartbreaking. You actually have to say to yourself, 'If I have to work this hard and if I'm never going to see my kid and if they are going to have a tremendous stress in childcare, should I be doing it?' Fox said. "

"Babies have much higher levels of stress in childcare," she added.

The 62-year-old author said that parents were sometimes disturbed by 'the trappings' of having a baby, such as designer clothing and decorated nursery.

"When they have the good house, the good car, the good job - we're talking about very advantaged people - they have everything and they think, 'Now we need a baby which we can dress up and make look perfect'," she said.

"But do they realise that child needs love more than anything else in the world? It needs love, time and attention," she added. (ANI)



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InkTank said:
i wud say it depends on the individual and the situation he/she is in.....one cant generalise i feel.....

September 06, '08


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dagnysharma said:
Hi,

I wandered on to your blog because I saw that Chithra had commented here. I tried to go away without commenting. But that seemed like cowardice to me. Anyways I have a penchant for taking the bull by the horns.

I see everyone agreeing with you. To tell you the truth... I want to agree with you too. Agree and be holier-than-thou and moralistic. Stand on a pedastal and preach. Oh boy..! How I would love to do that..!

But I cant. Though I love my kiddos more than I can express. Though- even with a teenager growing in my house.. a very spirited teenager mind you- I dont have mutiny on my hands.. yet I cant agree with you.

For I committed the sin you speak of. I 'abused' my kids as you say... But I am not ashamed.

I was a single parent with no financial support. My kids know I had to do it. They are well-adjusted independent human beings and I am proud of them.

Other side of the coin...? It DOES exist you know.. though we wish it away sometimes.

Cheers,

Dagny

September 06, '08


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chithrajust said:
---------it's all very true; if we are not ready to spend time with kids, better not to have kids at all-------

September 06, '08


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ammu41 said:
A child bought up with love and care will live to the parents expectations, but a child left in a childcare will live up to others expectations... thats what we mostly come across in the relationship between parents and kids.

September 01, '08


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mercurytemper said:
Totally in agreement with whatever you have expressed , but buddy , situations do froce parents to do things unwillingly .

September 01, '08


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nash5 said:
It's shameful to leave the toddler at creche

September 01, '08

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