A 'NO'

It had been a very common play, most of us might have played in our childhood with large black ants. The number of times you push it aside it comes back retreating on the same line from where it had been pushed back. You may get frustrated but it does not give up until you pick it up and throw out of the premises or use insecticide and kill it totally. What did you do? You said ‘No’ to its approaching you, or say denied entry into your premises. But it was not ready to take it. It came back again and again relentlessly until you made it totally non-existing in the area. Similar is the case with the kids – just remember the number of times you have struggled to prevent your kid from popping up something picked up from the ground. A similar gesture of saying ‘No’ to him and refusal of the kid to accept it.
Would somebody spell this two lettered simple word for me. Ridiculous isn’t it. You may be wondering the utter stupidity of mine if I did not know how to spell the simple word ‘No’ but my dear friends, for me, I find this is the most hardest word I have ever seen. Not only me even most of you might have felt it many many times in your life till now. You have said ‘YES’ when you wanted to say ‘NO’, but could not do so. Sometimes due to respect to elders who wanted you to do something, sometimes out of affection to wards your children, sometimes out of love towards your partner, some other times out of friendship and sometimes as your boss/employer wanted you to do that. The result being inconvenience in many ways or agony or may be even in losses to you. Such ‘YES’ might have made you to forego your favorite movie you have been contemplating to see since long. It might have made you to postpone purchase of an item you almost ordered. Your indecision and failure to deny when you ought to have said ‘NO’ may at times hamper your peace of mind for the whole life. For example you wanted to be an Engineer but as your parents wanted you to be Doctor conceded to their wish, and live with the unsatisfied desire of failure to be an engineer. There can be thousands of such examples that we see in our daily life where one is forced to say ‘Yes’ to somebody at the cost of his own happiness and regret for the whole life knowing pretty well that once as a willing party changing the course be it for the sake of some x, y and z seldom he can do anything to change the step he has already taken. Such yes-ism would make you end up regretting what you could not do and dislike what you are supposed to do.
There is another side of the ‘NO’. Like in the case of the ants, it is an inherent quality in most of us NOT to feel ok and accept if any body says ‘NO’ to our request. As we find such gesture on the part of the opposite person as the most demeaning and insulting to us. Unable to bear it, make ourselves as well as the one who has caused this, suffer and agonized in various ways. Best example of this attitude you can see in most of the colleges now a days. The instances of acid throwing and ill treatments are the examples of this inability to accept the denial by other party. At what cost, is seldom taken into consideration.
Therefore stop being indecisive. in spite of the inconveniences and accusations you may have to face try not to be a Yes-ism person and say a firm ‘NO’ when you want to say a ‘NO’ and save your time, energy and peace of mind. The word is your personal power tool and it will save you of displeasure in many ways. Find phrases and ways of saying no in a polite manner when you feel ‘NO’ is the right thing to say at the same time without hurting or losing the friends, family and jobs.

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