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Posted on: Jun 12, '09

When a woman loses will power...

I've known my eldest maasi to be the most vivacious, kind and gentle woman. But, for the last one year she has been bed ridden with paralysis, after an unfortunate accident. This is one aunt who has seen the worst days of her life. Her husband is not really the kind of man that any woman should marry. A dominating, foul-mouthed tyrant. He made my aunt give up studying MA because he didn't want her to be more educated than he is. My eldest cousin has separated from her husband and has two kids. My other cousin died in a road accident six years ago. The youngest one's marriage is also on rocky grounds.

Kakiji faces her husband's and daughter's brunt all the time. Frustrated fools! In spite of all these, I haven't known my aunt to complain or crib. 'Kya karein betaa, jaisi rab ki marzi,' she says, just like many women. It really needs nerves of steel to survive the kind of life she has lived. It's quite ironic that for someone of her moral and mental strength, she is so submissive. Guess that's what happens when you always say, 'family first' and give in to their every demand, even the unreasonable ones, without voicing what you want or what you think is wrong.

And, right enough, now that my aunt is so down and out, she has absolutely no will or wish to come back to normal. It's been a year now. That's not the maasi I have known. The most lively woman just sits in a corner, listless and disinterested. She doesn't like bright lights anymore. She rudely asks my other maasi and uncle to leave when they pay her a visit. She doesn't want to see a therapist. Maybe it's her way of finally shunning out all that she doesn't want.

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flirtmanGEM said:
Your aunt to be very frank is not a fighter, a person who holds back and faces life the way it is. She is helpless cause she wants to be helpless. One can debate a lot on her conditions but practically you have to agree on this that change can happen only if she wants. Shutting down oneself is no solution.

June 12, '09

houri said:
it's unfortunate but nothing can be done against the scars experience leaves and then people become unreachable. they only way out is to live a new life, be a new person ..and that she will be ..it cant go anywhere..we have to be patient.

June 12, '09

Shomeonly said:
finally she is rebelling! hope she can still tolerate some ppl?

June 12, '09

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