I am 36. Alone but certainly not lonely. Many men and women raise their eyebrows (Yes, they never talk) at my 'single' status and wonder if something's amiss, but that is just not the case. I have been consciously rejecting certain men from my scheme of things as they just don't fit into my space for 'ideal fit'. It is just a case of geting rid of bad rubbish and not a case of being a sacrifycing martyr as most people are prone to believe. 

I have worked hard my whole life with not the best of family scenarios, so I guess the least I can expect is someone matching up to my ideals and even thoughts. But no one does and that is a pity. My family coax me into getting a partner, but never discuss it openly as they should. Half of the world is not communicating and expects the other half to understand unsaid words, feelings and ideas. Being a communications specialist, I believe that what is communicated is only that which goes into the mind of the receptor. The rest like body language, unsaid feelings and mind reading are all hogwash. No one has the time to read someone else's mind that too if it is full of garbage. Many people believe a lot in the power of the unsaid and depend a lot on feeling, but in my case, if you don't tell me, I'll never know. Because half the world wants to be known, understood and most importantly accepted and loved. If you can't do it in words, then don't expect some surreal form of communication, that is just totally 'insane' and I urge the rest of the world to tell it like it is and not just keep shouting in the wind. 

Also I am a firm believer in the fact that alone is necessarily better than 'with company but lonely'. I see a lot of people lonely in the crowd and that startles me.

Communication is the best form of relationship and if left undone, will leave behind incomplete relationships. So get on with it and tell me and be ready for the barrage on your side of the receiving end. READY???

Tags: communicate, listen, communication, loneliness