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Short Stories

Mon, 29 Sep 2008 13:44:17 +0000

(I didn't create them, I found on various websites Pure Copy n paste ). Hope you like them anyway. ___________________________________________________________________ A Box Full of Kisses The story goes that some time ago, a man punished his 3-year-old daughter for wasting a roll of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became infuriated when the child tried to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift to her father the next morning and said, "This is for you, Daddy." The man was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, but his anger flared again when he found out the box was empty. He yelled at her, stating, "Don't you know, when you give someone a present, there is supposed to be something inside? The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and cried, "Oh, Daddy, it's not empty at all. I blew kisses into the box. They're all for you, Daddy." The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little girl, and he begged for her forgiveness. Only a short time later, an accident took the life of the child. It is also told that her father kept that gold box by his bed for many years and, whenever he was discouraged, he would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there. In a very real sense, each one of us, as humans beings, have been given a gold container filled with unconditional love and kisses... from our children, family members, friends, and God. There is simply no other possession, anyone could hold, more precious than this. ________________________________________________________________________ The 4 Wives There was a rich merchant who had 4 wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to delicacies. He took great care of her and gave her nothing but the best. He also loved the 3rd wife very much. He's very proud of her and always wanted to show off her to his friends. However, the merchant is always in great fear that she might run away with some other men. He too, loved his 2nd wife. She is a very considerate person, always patient and in fact is the merchant's confidante. Whenever the merchant faced some problems, he always turned to his 2nd wife and she would always help him out and tide him through difficult times. Now, the merchant's 1st wife is a very loyal partner and has made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and business as well as taking care of the household. However, the merchant did not love the first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her. One day, the merchant fell ill. Before long, he knew that he was going to die soon. He thought of his luxurious life and told himself, "Now I have 4 wives with me. But when I die, I'll be alone. How lonely I'll be!" Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I loved you most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No way!" replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word. The answer cut like a sharp knife right into the merchant's heart. The sad merchant then asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you so much for all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?" "No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is so good over here! I'm going to remarry when you die!" The merchant's heart sank and turned cold. He then asked the 2nd wife, "I always turned to you for help and you've always helped me out. Now I need your help again. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?" "I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only send you to your grave." The answer came like a bolt of thunder and the merchant was devastated. Then a voice called out : "I'll leave with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go." The merchant looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, almost like she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the merchant said, "I should have taken much better care of you while I could have!" Actually, we all have 4 wives in our lives a. The 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it'll leave us when we die. b. Our 3rd wife ? Our possessions, status and wealth. When we die, they all go to others. c. The 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how close they had been there for us when we're alive, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave. d. The 1st wife is in fact our soul, often neglected in our pursuit of material, wealth and sensual pleasure. __________________________________________________________________________ Out of the Box A blind man was begging on New York Street with a board written "I'm blind, help me" Once a guy passing that way saw him and took his board and wrote something. The Guy informed the blind man that it can change your life. What did the guy written on the board which can changed the life of that blind man??????? Scroll on…. > < < << > < > "Today is the beautiful day, I can’t see it" Moral " Think Out-of-the-Box, it would definitely change your life…. ________________________________________________________________________ 1day boy askd hs grlfrnd 2 marry him. D grl gave hm a challenge 2 live a day w/out hr only den she'll marry him.No communication was b/w dem 4 24 hrs. D boy did nt know dat d grl has only 24hrs life left coz she ws seriously ill. Aftr 24hrs d boy wnt 2 grlz home holdin a ring. He ws surprised knowin she's dead. She left a letter 4 him sayin, "u did it & u can do it again n everyday my love! ______________________________________________________________________ Must Read Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room ' s only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation. Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. . Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene. One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band - he could see it in his mind ' s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days, weeks and months passed. One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.' Epilogue: There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can ' t buy. 'Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present .' _______________________________________________________________________ Hot Chocolate A group of graduates, well established in their careers, were talking at a reunion and decided to go visit their old university professor, now retired. During their visit, the conversation turned to complaints about stress in their work and lives. Offering his guests hot chocolate, the professor went into the kitchen and returned with a large pot of hot chocolate and an assortment of cups - porcelain, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the hot chocolate. When they all had a cup of hot chocolate in hand, the professor said: "Notice that all the nice looking, expensive cups were taken, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. The cup that you're drinking from adds nothing to the quality of the hot chocolate. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was hot chocolate, not the cup; but you consciously went for the best cups... And then you began eyeing each other's cups. Now consider this: Life is the hot chocolate; your job, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain life. The cup you have does not define, nor change the quality of life you have. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the hot chocolate God has provided us. God makes the hot chocolate, man chooses the cups. The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything that they have. Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. And enjoy your hot chocolate.

Test your knowledge of the Indian struggle for Independence

Thu, 14 Aug 2008 02:32:04 +0000

Here is a Quiz based on the Indian Independence Movement. iv scored 13/14 and wht's ur score?? don't forget to mention in comments :D Who was the president of the Constituent Assembly that held the 'Independence Meeting'? Who was the viceroy of independent India? Name the first woman minister of Independent India. What does the navy blue wheel that appears in the Indian national flag stand for? (not the name 'Ashoka Chakra') Since when India had been recognized as a republic? Who was the last Governor General of Independent India? Our National animal? Our national Bird? Our National Flower? Our National Fruit? Which famous movement did Mahatma Gandhi launch in August 1942? The Lal in Lal, Bal, Pal was ? The Indian National Army was founded by ? Who framed the Constitution of India? Phew!! tht's it and try to give answere honestly no CHEATING haan !!! (no peeking to others answere or using google or other search engines) TO KNOW THE ANSWERE SCRAP ME :D I WILL MAIL U ON FROPPER ALL THE BEST and tht's not all!! upload tonnes of pics of young leaders who can make INDIA really shine!! express ur feelings by writing a blog post about patriotic leaders b'coz of whom we got our freedom or a post on problems faced by our motherland which we need freedom from... tag all ur entries as "Independence Day" to win lot's of exciting prizes ;-) for details chk this link : http://www.fropper.com/posts/19582 so chak de yaara!! Apni Azadi Ko fropper pe express karo. Vande Mataram!!

lets see who can do this!!

Fri, 9 May 2008 12:26:51 +0000

all u have to do is post each of the nos 1-10 without any interruption* .... * continuous counting (one count or no. in one comment from 1-10) in ur comments if someone interrupt u in between u have to start all again ;-) It's not for the getting the comments it's just ment for fun and game so enjoy "Khelo Fropperites Khelo" and haan you can also cut other ppl's comments so keep an eye on them ;-) the one who does so wins the game !! there can be no. of winners too:D so ready steady goooooooooooo :D OUR FIRST WINNER : sweetangeljaan ~*~ winners list ~*~ sasmita2003 Prasad9686 neha_sh2000 Ocean24_11 madhumitaCAP2000 prashantnaik2000 soundspot rockeroffropper manegautam aju19 earthfly mamta_294 Devils_Pride abhi8479 LovelyStars CONGRATS TO ALL THE WINNERS BUT WELL U MISS THE FUN PART IT WILL BE MORE INTRESTING AND DRIVE U CRAZY WHEN THERE ARE MULTIPLE PEOPLES ARE PLAYING THIS GAME. SO INVITE UR FRNDS AND TRY TO PLAY IN GROUP ;-) THEN SEE WHO WINS THIS GAME :D CHEERS!!!!

how u heard about fropper.com

Thu, 10 Apr 2008 18:18:41 +0000

Hi friends ... I know sounds crazy but I Would like to know how u heard about fropper.Com ! So plz let us know (post in ur comments) ;-)

LOOK UP YOUR BIRTHDAY AND SEE WHAT YOU ARE..

Sun, 16 Mar 2008 16:44:57 +0000

I AM A Dove....... WHAT ARE YOU January 01 - 09 = Dog January 10 - 24 = Mouse January 25 - 31 = Lion February 01 - 05 = Cat February 06 - 14 = Dove February 15 - 21 = Turtle February 22 - 28 = Panther March 01 - 12 = Monkey March 13 - 15 = Lion March 16 - 23 = Mouse March 24 - 31 = Cat April 01 - 03 = Dog April 04 - 14 = Panther April 15 - 26 = Mouse April 27 - 30 = Turtle May 01 - 13 = Monkey May 14 - 21 = Dove May 22 - 31 = Lion June 01 - 03 = Mouse June 04 - 14 = Turtle June 15 - 20 = Dog June 21 - 24 = Monkey June 25 - 30 = Cat July 01 - 09 = Mouse July 10 - 15 = Dog July 16 - 26 = Dove July 27 - 31 = Cat August 01 - 15 = Monkey August 16 - 25 = Mouse August 26 - 31 = Turtle September 01 - 14 = Dove September 15 - 27 = Cat September 28 - 30 = Dog October 01 - 15 = Monkey October 16 - 27 = Turtle October 28 - 31 = Panther November 01 - 16 = Lion November 17 - 30 = Cat December 01 - 16 = Dog December 17 - 25 = Monkey December 26 - 31 = Dove If you are a Dog : A very loyal and sweet person. Your loyalty can never be doubted. You are quite honest and sincere when it comes to your attitude towards working. You are a very simple person, indeed. Absolutely hassle free, humble and down-to-earth! ! That explains the reason why your friends cling on to you! You have a good taste for clothes. If your wardrobe is not updated with what is trendy, you sure are depressed. Popular and easy-going. You have a little group of dignified friends, all of them being quality-personified . If you are a Mouse : Always up to some sort of a mischief! The mischievous gleam in your eyes is what makes you so cute and attractive to everyone. You are an extremely fun-to-be-with kind of person. No wonder people seek for your company and look forward to include you for all get-together' s. However, you are sensitive which is a drawback. People need to select their words while talking to you. If someone tries to fiddle around and play with words while dealing with you, it is enough to invite your wrath. God bless the person then! If you are a Lion: Quite contradictory to your name, you are a peace loving person. You best try to avoid a situation wherein you are required to fight. An outdoor person, you dislike sitting at one place for a long duration. You are a born leader, and have it in you how to tactfully derive work from people. You love being loved, and when you receive your share of limelight from someone, you are all theirs!!!! Well, well... hence some people could even take an advantage, flatter you to the maximum and get their work done. So be careful..... If you are a Cat : An extremely lovable, adorable person, sometimes shy, with a passion for quick wit. At times, you prefer quietness. You love exploring various things and going into depth of each thing. Under normal circumstances you're cool but when given a reason to, you are like a volcano waiting to erupt. You're a fashion bird. People look forward to you as an icon associated with fashion. Basically, you mingle along freely but don't like talking much to strangers. People feel very easy in your company. You observe care in choosing your friends. If you are a Turtle : You are near to perfect and nice at heart. The examples of your kindness are always circulated in groups of people. You, too, love peace. You wouldn't like to retaliate even to a person who is in the wrong. You are loved due to this. You do not wish to talk behind one's back. People love the way you always treat them. You can give, give and give love, and the best part is that you do not expect it back in return. You are generous enough. Seeing things in a practical light is what remains the best trait of you guys. If you are a Dove : You symbolize a very happy-go-lucky approach in life. Whatever the surroundings may be, grim or cheerful, you remain unaffected. In fact, you spread cheer wherever you go. You are the leader of your group of friends and good at consoling people in their times of need. You dislike hypocrisy and tend to shirk away from hypocrites. They can never be in your good books, no matter what. You are very methodical and organized in your work. No amount of mess, hence, can ever encompass you. Beware, it is easy for you to fall in love.... If you are a Panther : You are mysterious. You are someone who can handle pressure with ease, and can handle any atmosphere without going berserk. You can be mean at times, and love to gossip with your selected group. Very prim and proper. You like all situations and things to be in the way you desire, which, sometimes is not possible. As a result, you may lose out in some relationships. But otherwise, you love to help people out from difficult and tight spots when they really need you. If you are a Monkey : Very impatient and hyper!!! You want things to be done as quick as possible. At heart, you are quite simple and love if you are the center of attraction. That way, you people are unique. You would like to keep yourself safe from all the angles. Shall your name be dragged or featured in any sort of a controversy, you then go all panicky. Therefore, you take your precautions from the very beginning. When you foresee anything wrong, your sixth sense is what saves you from falling in traps. Quite a money minded bunch you people are!! don't forget to write in comments wht you are ;)

Ur Dress code for Valentines day (14th Feb)

Mon, 11 Feb 2008 14:14:59 +0000

Decide what code is for u. ♥ Green- I'm free ♥ Blue- I'm waiting ♥ Orange- going to propose ♥ Pink- accepted just now!!! ♥ Black- proposal rejected ♥ White- already booked ♥ Yellow- broke up!!! ♥ Gray- not interested... ♥ Red- leave me ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ HAPPY VALENTINES DAY ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ * Plz post ur colors in comment

Give Each Other Space

Sun, 3 Feb 2008 15:40:14 +0000

We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise our diversity. We need to give each other space so that we may both give and receive such beautiful things as ideas, openness, dignity, joy, healing, and inclusion. - Author Unknown Paradoxically, relationships that seem perfect and in which the couple does everything together are at great risk of failing. It is human nature to end up feeling imprisoned by the sense of being permanently glued together and always having to rely on one another for a source of fulfillment in everyday life. To be whole, it is important for all of us to feel autonomous as well as attached. To avoid this "benign" trap of habit without conscious thought that leads to over-reliance on one person, it is important to recognize the over-attachment and to talk honestly and supportively with one another about practical and positive solutions that will allow both of you the room to grow individually within a partnership. Steps 1. Recognize the warning signs. Do both of you do everything together? Is every moment of your spare time taken up with following one another around to the point where neither of you really knows who suggested what but you're both doing it all the same? Or, maybe there are more negative feelings, such as possessiveness, clinginess or jealousy involved? Ultimately, do you feel a sense of suffocation in your relationship; or a lack of direction or overwhelming fog whenever you try to think of doing things without your partner? 2. Check that you are not involved in a relationship of codependency. Codependent relationships are not much fun. In fact, they are about intensity, perfectionism and taking oneself and one's relationship too seriously. There is a sense of controlling one another and dire mutual need for each other that comes about from such previous problems as an emotionally traumatized upbringing, a fear of losing people or simply not having much sense of purpose in one's own life and replacing that with another person. Basically, those in a codependent relationship feel an inability to "stand alone" and are trying together to complete a whole from two broken halves. If you do feel this is the underlying problem, both of you may need to seek professional assistance, as together it is likely you will only continue this needy behavior without neutral, outside intervention. Part of the recovery process for a couple in a codependent relationship is learning to lighten up, have fun and play together and apart. 3. Talk it over. Bake some cookies and make a cup of tea or coffee. Sit down together somewhere peaceful and tell your partner you need to have a positive heart-to-heart chat. Use a calm voice and be very friendly. Start the discussion with your partner by telling them how much you love them and how grateful you are for this person being in your life. Then proceed to discuss in a kind but frank fashion that you believe that the healthiness of your relationship is dependent on both of you being able to grow as independent people as well as together in a couple. Basically, you are suggesting that the happiness of both you requires letting a little air into each other's lives in ways that can only enhance your loving relationship. Ways to help you include: Avoid blaming, never say "you this, you that" and always voice it with "I" statements and talk about goals, healthiness and not about things that are going wrong between the two of you. Make it clear that this is about ensuring that you return to being the individual that they fell in love with at the beginning; that you are losing a sense of this person and want to be yourself again.[5] Paint them a picture of how expanding your horizons as individuals will enable your "coupledom" to flourish when the two of you share personal discoveries. Use the metaphor by psychotherapist Wendy Allen of both of you paddling your own canoe, side by side, rather than the same canoe together; she says that space apart helps to ensure that each person carries a cohesive and whole sense of self that strengthens the sense of togetherness. Try defining what you mean by "space". This can alleviate a lot of the potential for fear and resentment if your partner understands what you mean by giving each other space. Knowing what type of space is sought means that it can more readily be accommodated and is less likely to result in friction. For you, space might be (among other things): Leisure time Quiet time Working space Emotional space Financial space 4. Explain to your partner that other people should always be a part of your lives. Relationship counselor Anne Hollonds notes that it is a fatal mistake to assume that being a couple will fulfill each other's needs completely and says that "there are some things we get from same-sex relationships that we can't get from our lovers."[8] Say that you want to, and encourage your partner to, spend more time with those friends who are missing both of you and so that both of you are refreshed by this new stimulus. In many cases, it's likely that your friends and your partner's friends don't mix; that's okay, it is about getting out and enjoying your friendships and trusting one another. It's easier when it's about same-sex friends; just don't address the thornier issue of opposite sex friends until both of you have explored same-sex friendship space. For now, ways in which you can help one another grow through spending time with others include: Arranging for partner-free evenings Letting friends come over and take over the basement, the ping-pong room, the TV room, wherever and the other partner either clearing out or staying in another part of the house (you can always edit wikiHow all night!) Trusting a partner to go on a weekend fishing trip or a Las Vegas weekend with their friends; go and book into a spa or golf weekend to treat yourself during such a break from one another to prevent yourself from moping and bringing down your side of the bargain. 5. Ask that you be soulmates and not cellmates. Both of you need to work on inner fears that might arise concerning rejection, insecurity, fear of loss, resentment and mistrust - reassure your partner that you are committed to them and that you are simply asking for them to be committed to the evolution of your relationship into a stronger and more sound place than you feel it is now. And both of you must work together to reach compromises that work both ways. 6. Take time to pursue your own interests. Do a deal with your partner that it is time for both of you to reclaim personal space and pursue your own interests and hobbies some of the time. A good target would be to gradually increase time spent apart to about a quarter of your leisure time on a regular basis but the breakdown is really up to you as an individual, as well as reaching a compromise as a couple. Nobody said this was meant to be easy! 7. Break out of the mold as a couple. This means doing independent things while sharing an activity as a couple. It may be scary at first but this can be both incredibly liberating and can also prove to each other that in independence neither of you has anything to fear, only room for more admiration and love to grow. Suggestions for acting independently as a couple include: Sitting apart from one another at dinner parties. Networking at parties while not hanging off one another's arms. Kiss "good luck" at the door of a soirée and occasionally meet each other's eyes with loving looks during the night but really enjoy the company around you. Fill one another in after the event on all the thrilling gossip you've both picked up during the night! And there is nothing more exciting than seeing the looks of surprise and yearning in other people's faces when they realize how solid a couple you are and yet how liberated too! Going to the same vacation but doing different activities. You go skiing while he goes snowboarding. You go swimming while she goes surfing. You're both in the same general vicinity but you're giving each other breaks. Meet for meals and occasional joint activities. Or sandwich it - separate activities at either end with a shared long hiking trip in the middle. You get the drift. If children are involved, give one another time out from caring. Make sure these breaks come with no strings attached. Time off to enjoy oneself is just that; both of you recognize the other deserves this space. 8.Reassure your partner. Tell your partner that adjusting space for optimum growth of both individuals and the couple is an ongoing need in all relationships. Successful couples are prepared to readjust distance between one another - both when getting too close and when moving too far apart.[10] Reassure your partner that if they feel you are pulling away too much, all it takes is to tell you this and you will stop, drop everything and listen to your partner's concerns. Also reassure them that this is not about wanting permanent space from your partner; it's about allowing for "growth space" as you continue to share your lives and love together. Naturally, during times of illness, distress or other difficult situations, the relationship needs change and you will both be strong enough to move with this and make additional adjustments as needed. Tips This must be a friendly, caring discussion; don't go into such a discussion with a chip on your shoulder about your wants and needs, or repressed anxiety, or a general seriousness about "our relationship has to be like this or else" that really serves as an ultimatum. These types of negative approaches will simply give rise to fears of rejection and will cause the conversation to be filled with self-defensive tactics that will not change anything. If partner doesn't seem to understand, or expresses anxiety, do not say "it was just a thought" and drop it. Discuss why there is anxiety about your overly close relationship and gently show why things need to change to ensure that your relationship will keep strong. If you give up quickly, it will be near impossible to ever change things as both of you will recognize an unwillingness to reach to the root of the problem and unfurl the knots. Having opened the door, you should accept your own advice, and not get picky or nag about your partner's new private time. If this bothers you now, think it through in advance; you cannot have your cake and eat it too. You must be prepared to forgo nagging suspicions about your partner's activities; this is an exercise in loving trust. Remember the well-known saying by Richard Bach: If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were. When things start to get better under your plan, resist pointing it out to your partner -- nobody wants anybody grading their life. If your partner volunteers a new found happiness, agree that this is making your relationship a happier and more stable one. Do not dwell, however, for the secret to relationships after solving the challenges is to keep them going with positive, unspoken understandings. Keeping relationships under a microscope both causes and is, in itself, relationship pathology. Warnings If partner is seriously opposed to you opening up your lives, it's time to look at your whole card and consider bailing. Only you can decide which is more important: the promise of eventual boredom, or having your partner remain in your life. Source: http://www.wikihow.com

Planning to switch jobs? Read this first

Sun, 27 Jan 2008 17:59:09 +0000

You spend a large percentage of your waking hours at your job. How happy are you there? Will you be happier in a new job? To switch or not to switch is the perennial question many of us face today. But, before you reach that decision, it is important to evaluate certain aspects: Leadership: Do you have it in you? Are you a chronic job-switcher? "Whether it's for a good reason or bad, switching jobs is extremely common nowadays, especially in some professions -- software for example. The days when people kept only one job throughout their lives are gone. Today, the average CV usually contains several moves, especially early on in a career. In fact, it's even considered unambitious to spend too many years in one job," says Manisha Dutt, 29, a manager with a software firm in Gurgaon. However, an extreme case of 'job hopping,' such as one every year or even several times a year, definitely won't reflect well on your resume, especially if you are under 30. "This is because a company also spends a considerable amount on training new employees and is always looking at reducing employee turnover. In such a case, one look at your resume, and they may run in the other direction," says Kesarwani. Circumstances that demand a job change and those that don't Some circumstances may warrant a job change, but others can be remedied. "The reason to get you to switch needs to be big -- reasons like lack of opportunities for growth, a move necessitated for family/ health reasons, need for a better salary, etc. Alternatively, you may know for sure that the new company is a great place to work in," says Pankaj Sharma, 27, an independent recruitment consultant in Delhi. Questions to ask yourself Ask yourself the following questions regarding where you are at present (and be honest with your answers): Do I really like my current job? Do I enjoy working with my colleagues? If I stay here, where will I be in two years time? Could I be earning more elsewhere? What are the intangible benefits of working here? Is the technology one that I would like to align myself with in the future? Answer the questions using these broad parameters Job quality (Is this what I want to do?) Growth prospects (Can I stay in this job? Can I move up?) More money (How much is enough?) Mental stimulation The importance of money Money is good stuff -- it pays for nice vacations, cool cars, education for your children, etc. Don't discount the money factor, especially if others are depending on you. "No matter what any one says, money does buy happiness. When you accumulate a significant amount as a buffer between yourself and poverty, and stop living one pay cheque at a time, your life completely changes. You gain the freedom to pursue other avenues, like your own business, a career change, a personal project, or a mentally enriching educational experience. Such freedom is an incomparable source of happiness and tranquility, and only money can grant it," says Kesarwani. However, if the new place totally rocks, you might consider working there and even taking a salary cut to jump ship if your current job is indeed a living nightmare. Do a cost-benefit analysis Let's say you take home Rs 30,000 per month. You are offered a 20 per cent salary hike in the new job and see yourself now taking home Rs 36,000 a month. What will that extra Rs 6,000 a month (= Rs 72,000 a year) do for you? Will you blow it all on a plasma TV, stash it all in savings for an early retirement, eat out two or three more times a week, or go partying with your friends? What is the bottomline impact on your lifestyle that this raise will give you? How will this raise impact your work environment? Keeping in mind that you work eight hours or more a day, are these extras worth the anxiety and the risk involved in switching jobs? What risks do you have if you stay in your current job? In short, what is the opportunity cost? To cut to the chase, don't move only for financial reasons unless you're going to earn significantly more. Happiness, in terms of liking what you are doing and feeling that you are accomplishing something, is much more important. Eventually, the money won't be motivation enough to continue with the new job. Weigh the risks Consider this -- you already know what your current job is like and you like it. You know the people and get along with your colleagues, who are interesting people. Your boss treats you well. The new place might be even better and the offer may be 20 per cent more than what you're getting now. The people might all be nice, or there may be a few nut cases and backstabbers there. Your boss may steal the credit for the work you do. "Switching is a big risk; you are going out into the unknown. Chances are, the new place can be worse," says Sharma, who has experienced this himself. "Verify everything the potential boss tells you. Bosses try to make the job sound attractive in the same way that job applicants try to make themselves sound good," says Dutt. If you don't really want to quit "The first step is to analyse why, and whether or not you really want to leave. Is it just because of one thing, such as a low salary or an interpersonal conflict? If so, you must communicate that to your manager and HR department. It could be better to first consider options such as moving to another department, or negotiating a salary hike rather than leaving the organisation," feels Dutt. Most problems at the workplace can be solved if both parties are willing to solve them. "A three-month trial can be experimented with to see if the situation can be resolved. Just like problems take time to develop, their solutions also take time to work," says Kesarwani. Keep your relationship with your colleagues and your company intact The way in which you carry yourself during your transition can have a great impact on your career. It says as much about you professionally as the impression you had made on your first day. The people who you work with will make it a point to note your behaviour. If it is anywhere inappropriate or negative, the word can spread quickly. Keep in mind that this group you leave includes potential references. "Your last impression is just about as important as your first. It's vital to break away without any ill feeling, and leave behind an impeccable record. It's a small world and it could just happen that you work with, or for, the very same people again," says Sharma. So, it's important to leave on positive terms. Display professionalism. The right attitude is critical to building bridges, and not burning them, when you are at the threshold of assuming a new position. The guilt factor "Only three months into my first job, I landed a new opportunity offering me 30 to 40 per cent more than my current job. I felt really bad leaving my current job and disappointing the people that gave me a chance to work there," says Dutt. "As for feeling bad about leaving, don't get all flustered about it. Everyone needs to grow, and employers themselves are aware of that," says Sharma. "The key for you is to determine whether it's the wrong job, the wrong employer, or the wrong career. Once you have made that decision, the ideal scenario is to locate a new job while you are still employed. Then, if you think what you get is better than your current job, don't feel guilty -- take it. They'll understand.

Internet Precautions

Sat, 3 Nov 2007 03:31:40 +0000

1. DON'T give your password to anyone. Passwords are intended to protect your computer and your files. It's like giving the key to your house away! 2. DON'T answer messages that make you feel uncomfortable because they seem improper, indecent, or threatening. 3. DON'T give any personal information, such as your family's address, phone number, credit card or calling card numbers, your school's name, or your picture to anyone on a computer network that you don't personally know. 4. DON'T arrange to meet anyone you've met on the Internet until you don't personally know. Some people on the Internet lie about who they are, how old they are, and why they want to meet you. 5. DON'T try to break into computers. It's not a game. It's a crime and it's an invasion of privacy. Computers often contain sensitive information. How would you feel if someone broke into a computer and changed your grades? Deleted your term paper? Cut off your telephone? 6. DON'T steal copyrighted computer programs ("software") by copying it from the Internet. This is the same as stealing it from a store. People work hard to develop new programs and deserve to be paid for them. If software designers don't get paid for their work, they can't continue creating new software, such as new educational games or tools that help with schoolwork. 7. DON'T make copies of any copyrighted material, like books, magazines, or music without the permission of the author, publisher or artist. Copyrighted works are available (usually illegally) on the Internet. You are committing a crime if you copy and distribute them. QUICK REFRENCES: 1. Chat rooms - Don't give out personal details - Do be aware of spoofing - Don't accept files - Don't share photographs 2. Messaging - Don't give out personal details - Do be aware of spoofing - Don't accept files - Don't share photographs 3. Filtering - Do use effective software - Do keep up to date - Don't try to override settings 4. Anti-virus - Do use effective software - Do keep up to date - Don't try to override settings - Do run scans regularly - Don't disable 5. Spyware - Do use effective software - Do keep up to date - Don't try to override settings - Do run regularly 6. Firewall Get Safe Online - Do use effective hardware/software - Do keep up to date - Don't try to override settings 7. Phishing - Do be aware of scams - Don't provide personal details - Don't reply - Don't forward - Do report incidents 8. Pop-ups - Ignore them - DON'T follow the links - DO install anti-popup software (sometimes built-in to your browser software) Help our frnds :) IF U HAVE ANY REFRENCE OR WANT TO ADD ANY INFORMATION HERE DO LET ME KNOW I WILL UPDATE THIS BLOG WITH THERE ZONE NAME AND LINK. and please pass this information to ur other friends also :) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- UR INPUTS: writer2001 Thanks Also beware of cookies they may take your bank acount number your password etc. Make sure your firewall is working before you enter the internet.

Cheat Code

Thu, 11 Oct 2007 20:34:06 +0000

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